They say money canâ€™t buy love, and for the most part theyâ€™re right.
I mean, it can certainly help: vacations, presents, all the wonderful things that money can buy can keep the gears moving, but eventually you actually need chemistry for a real relationship. If youâ€™re looking for a sugar baby, thatâ€™s something else entirely. The dating scene for a man of means can be a minefield â€“ so how do you sort through the gold diggers to the gold?
Figure out what you want â€“ then let her know
Do you want arm candy, an intellectual match, or a mix of the two? Are you looking for something long-term or just for a week or two? Do you want to shower her with riches or keep it casual? Figure these things out, and donâ€™t hesitate to tell her. As contrived as it sounds, communication is key. The last thing you want is a messy situation because you forgot to tell her you arenâ€™t paying for her trip to Boca.
If youâ€™re looking for a sugar mama, and some people are, things might be a tad easier. These arrangements are usually handled as a business transaction, so you donâ€™t have to worry about feelings. A NOTE: Iâ€™m not talking about escorts, here. No need to get your boxers in a knot.
For a genuine relationship, things are as complicated as theyâ€™ve ever been. Be wary of ladies who suddenly appear after you come into cash. Like roaches, they are! Or so Iâ€™ve heard. Keep the lines of communications clear, and your extra cash shouldnâ€™t complicate thingsâ€¦too much.
Donâ€™t be a dickâ€¦and donâ€™t let her be a dick.
This should be a rule for just about everything. My one commandment, as it were. If everyone could just follow this one simple rule, weâ€™d be golden. In a relationship, itâ€™s doubly important. Youâ€™re fortunate enough to have some cash, donâ€™t lord it over her. By the same rule, donâ€™t put up with her being an idiot to you or to anyone else. Weâ€™re all adults here, stop acting like a spoiled child if some barrista forgets your chocolate sprinkles.
Have a good time
Everyone needs some down time, and having money makes that down time much more interesting. Go have an adventure, make some memories. If it doesnâ€™t work out, at least you had a good time while it lasted. As an added bonus, if your idea of fun doesnâ€™t jive with hers, now you know.
And knowing is half the battle.